When we are afraid, the fear is only connected to either one of two things, the past or the future. More specifically if I’m afraid it’s because I’ve already had the experience and I don’t want to experience it again. Or, it’s because I’ve never had the experience but it just doesn’t sound very appealing. Either way, in order to decrease fear I have to make a new relationship with it, so I begin looking at the past experience. I see that I don’t want to do it again-I didn’t like the experience but in all reality, I survived. I then start looking for the fear of the future or the fear of the unknown. Realistically and objectively, I just don’t have enough evidence to judge it as good or bad or terrible or tragic. In reality, it could be the best thing that ever happened to me! That’s not to say that I welcome it. That’s not to say that I want this tragedy bestowed upon me, however, realistically, ask yourself how many times have you heard someone tell a story of a tragic situation that ended up being the best thing that ever happened to them? It happens ALL the time! One episode of Oprah will tell you that!