Unity Holistic Life Coaching & Counseling Policies

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Hello and Welcome to Unity Holistic Life Coaching and Counseling! I am so honored and grateful to be able to do this work with you. Let me first commend you for the powerful and courageous step you just took. Doing this kind of work is not easy – it requires a great deal of commitment, […]

“Until we make the unconscious conscious, it will direct our life and we will call it fate”. CG Jung

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“To let the unconscious go it’s own way and to experience it as reality is something that exceeds the courage and capacity of the average European. He prefers simply not to understand this problem. For the spiritually weakened this is the better course, since the thing is not without its dangers.” – Carl Gustav Jung […]

Regarding Relationships; Two nonnegotiable elements

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By Samantha Matern, Counselor – M.A., J.D.   The two most important, nonnegotiable elements of a healthy relationship of any kind are trust and respect. Love is not a mandatory element of a healthy relationship – only trust and respect are. How many people do you know that you love but can’t have a relationship […]

Addiction vs Recovery – By; Elaine H.

Samantha Matern (AKA: Sam, Sami), has a Masters in Counseling Psychology, a Doctorate in Jurisprudence (law degree), and is registered and certified in Addictions Counseling. Samantha is also a Certified Addictions Educator and is currently teaching at Santa Barbara City College. Professor Matern recently asked a class of her students if they would like their […]

The Grappling Alternative; By Adam

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Editorial: Samantha Matern (AKA: Sam, Sami), has a Masters in Counseling Psychology, a Doctorate in Jurisprudence (law degree), and is registered and certified in Addictions Counseling. Samantha is also a Certified Addictions Educator and is currently teaching at Santa Barbara City College. Professor Matern recently asked a class of her students if they would like […]

A Sacred Relationship: Holding the flashlight

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A Sacred Relationship: This statement refers to the relationship between the therapist and the client. There is truly an art and a technique in listening. It allows for the opening of the attainment of power. It’s the power of being heard. Being heard is a monumental healing tool for our patients. As I teach my students, […]

Clarity; Our Experiences Are Not Mistakes

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I think for this entry from Marianne Williamson’s Language of Letting Go, it really depends on your value system or your belief system. This entry talks a lot about God, a lot about there being a “plan”. For some people this might sound like fatalistic destiny or magical mystical stuff. From a more rational, logical, […]

Holding Your Own; Trust What YOU know

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It can be difficult to trust ourselves, to return and re-align with our natural given intuition and instincts. After years of avoiding, neglecting, or allowing others to dominate or oppress us, we can finally discover just how far away we have moved from our true self. When we find a coach or teacher that can […]

Be Direct & Honest

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Whether a spouse, significant other, sibling, parent or child … I have my clients read this over and over again to help them “define the parameters” of each relationship that causes them problems. Defining perimeters means understanding recognizing and being able to accept their own personal rules, ideals, and needs in each individual relationship. Some of […]

Friday’s Quotes – C.S. Lewis

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  Has this world been so kind to you that you should leave with regret? There are better things ahead than any we leave behind.   We are not living in a world where all roads are radii of a circle and where all, if followed long enough, will, therefore, draw gradually nearer and finally […]

Friday’s Quotes | C.G. Jung

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-By C.G. Jung Knowing your own darkness is the best method for dealing with the darknesses of other people. There is no coming to consciousness without pain. The meeting of two personalities is like the contact of two chemical substances: if there is any reaction, both are transformed. As far as we can discern, the […]

Friday’s Quotes | M. Williamson

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~ By Marianne Williamson ~ Love is what we were born with. Fear is what we learned here.   Spiritual progress is like detoxification. Things have to come up in order to be released. Once we have asked to be healed, then our unhealed places are forced to the surface.   In our natural state, we are […]

Bonds of Self

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Serenity exists between acceptance and willingness. Acceptance allows us to find peace in the world, and willingness allows us to be released from the bonds of self. Acceptance does not mean we are in agreement, it does not mean that it gives permission or that we acquiesce. It is a completely different experience to truly […]

Who & What to Trust

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  Wisdom will always be loving, it will never be cruel, and it will always be in consideration of all living beings. That is how you know who and what to trust. Samantha

Fear; Past or Future

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  When we are afraid, the fear is only connected to either one of two things, the past or the future. More specifically if I’m afraid it’s because I’ve already had the experience and I don’t want to experience it again. Or, it’s because I’ve never had the experience but it just doesn’t sound very […]

Chocolate vs Vanilla

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Whatever you tend to will grow.  Tending is a form of attention. If my thoughts are the seeds, what seeds am I sowing?  Which Garden am I spending time in? The shit garden or the peace garden? If someone doesn’t like you it says more about them than it does about you. If someone likes you it […]