Whatever you tend to will grow. Tending is a form of attention. If my thoughts are the seeds, what seeds am I sowing? Which Garden am I spending time in? The shit garden or the peace garden?
If someone doesn’t like you it says more about them than it does about you. If someone likes you it says more about them than it does about you.
Getting our feelings hurt because someone doesn’t like us is like vanilla getting its feelings hurt because someone chose chocolate.